Birthdays: Not what they used to be.

As Liam's 1st birthday drew near, the excitment  was overwhelming. We made banners with Nana, took photos and hung them all around the house. We bought great big toys and wrapped them in brightly covered papers. And made cupcakes as Liam's very first treat.

When the day finally arrived, 20+ family members joined us in celebrating our baby boy turning 1. We all praised him for his wobbly walking skills, his many recently acquired words and the cute little stuffed bunny he showed off proudly that he carried everywhere. 

Liam giggled and squeeled with delight as he opened his gifts. The photos speak for themselves as he devoured not one but two cupcakes! Much of which ended up on his face, in his hair and on the floor. To be expected at a 1 year olds birthday. 

Yes, Liam's 1st birthday was the kind you dream of. 

Yet as we quickly approach his 6th birthday, the excitement of that first celebration seems so far away. 

Many of the things that were praised at one, are now lost. 

Liam no longer speaks. He does not socialize. He can't have many treats because of medical issues, so the beloved cupcakes and muffins are out.

Family members no longer join us to celebrate another year for our sweet son. They just don't know what to say, or do. What gift would be appropriate for his development, or that is safe.

Because of sensory issues, singing happy birthday, blowing out candles, loud noises like clapping or even talking, are too much for him.

You see, the years pass by, Liam gets taller and looks older... but he doesn't grow up.

Birthdays are not what they used to be.